So, she dumped you.
There are few worse feelings, having your heart ripped out and chopped up into little pieces. If only she could know how you feel about her. If only she would see how you love her and cared for her. Maybe if you do some kind of grand gesture where you take her on a lovely getaway or buy her concert tickets or a whole ton of flowers she’ll realize how much you mean to her and …
STOP THAT THINKING RIGHT THERE.
That’s not going to win her back.
Groveling and having no self-esteem is not the way to get her back. That’s probably why she dumped you in the first place. No, if you want to win your ex-girlfriend back, you need to follow these steps.
Step 1: Cease All Communication With Her
This is going to be one of the toughest parts. But no more phone calls. No more texts. No more “likes” on Facebook or Re-Tweets. Take her off of Facebook. Stop following her on Twitter. Just completely and utterly remove her from your life, both virtual and otherwise. This will put her in a mindset of curiosity around you, always wondering what you’re doing, and if you’re meeting other people while she’s gone.
Step 2: Get Back in the Gym
When my last girlfriend broke up with me, I couldn’t eat for a few months, so I got really skinny and sickly-looking. This, obviously, is not going to win anyone over. You need to start working out again. Go for some jogs. Get back in shape. Improving your physical appearance – whether through working out or by getting a new expensive haircut – is vital. You need to regain your self-confidence by heading out there and getting compliments from other ladies.
Step 3: Remember How To Date
This is vitally important.
At some point, she will try to come back. They always do. And when she does, you have to be ready for it by treating it just like a new relationship, like when you first started dating. Instead of bringing all of this baggage to the relationship, you need to “play the game” that got you her in the first place.
That means, of course, teasing. For more on teasing, check out this video I made:
If you do that, then you’ll start to get her to be jealous, nostalgic, and back to thinking about you in a sexual way. These are vital if you are going to win her back.
The main key of all this though, the main take-away, is that the only way to win her back is by not making it look like you’re trying to win her back. That’s the only way she’s going to be interested in you once again and get in the mindset that she made a terrible mistake. And then, you will get your girlfriend back.
For more tips on how to win back your ex-girlfriend, check out this article at TSB.