Is your girl hanging out with friends that might be a little too slutty? Maybe they just constantly sit around and talk shit?Maybe they’re all dudes for some fucked up reason? We asked our relationship correspondent how to deal with this situation from a girl’s point of view…
What’s the issue with her friends? Are they all guys, and that makes you uncomfortable? Are they bad influences that just want to bar hop on the weekends and pick up guys? Do they want to hang out with her so much that she doesn’t have any time to spend with you? If she’s hanging out with the boys all the time, ask her how she would feel if you spent your weekends with a bunch of girls. If she says she doesn’t care, test the waters. Let her see you chillin with a group of chicks and see how she likes it. I’m almost positive she won’t be too thrilled. Do her girls drag her out to bar after bar on the weekends? She can’t help it if she’s not single. Tell her that you miss her, and you want to spend more time with her. Let her know that while you understand that she has to support her friends, you’re an important part of her life too. You can’t tell her not to hang out with them, but make it clear that you want more time with her.
Do her friends want to spend every waking moment with her? This is a sticky situation, especially if her friends are single. They may feel threatened by you – you’re the one taking their friend away from them. Tell your girl that you want to see her more – explain to her that you know why they love spending so much time with her, but its your turn. She’ll feel so good about herself that she’ll make sure she limits the girl time. If you have the opportunity, talk to her friends. Try to arrange things as a group – your friends and her friends can all get together without feeling like you’re choosing one over the other. You’ll never come between a girl and her friends, but you can open her eyes. Let her see what she’s missing when she’s not with you.
